Decadence vs Debt-Free

Two very different dreamers came up in my news feed this morning: Joel Weber and Martha Stewart. They both are living their dream, yet in very different ways.

Photos: Joel Weber

Joel built a 145 square foot house to save on living expenses while he is a student at the University of Texas so that he can graduate debt-free. Martha bought a 35,000 square foot house in Maine 20 years ago for, mostly, entertaining guests. She only spends part of the summer and a few weekends out of the year in this home.

Looking through the pictures of both of these homes, I kept thinking, "Wow! That's so cool!" While Martha has her dream-room just for making flower arrangements, Joel has built a home to help live a debt-free dream life. Martha entertains many celebrities in her home, while Joel's tiny space keeps him outside enjoying an active lifestyle.

There is no "right" way to live your dream. You just have to live it!

3 Tips to Help You Decide What You Really Want

Do you remember the vultures from The Jungle Book movie? They just couldn't seem to make a decision.

With an average of 35,000 conscious decisions we make each day, it's no wonder we have problems deciding what to do during more stressful times in our lives. So I've listed below three things you can do when you're faced with the unexpected.  

3 Tips to Help You Decide What You Really Want 


Ask yourself what you want.

This may sound silly, but it's quite important. In stressful times what we tend to focus on is the source of our stress. But try to step back. Breathe. Ask yourself, "What do I really want?" Don't allow the "Yeah, but...." thoughts to invade the process, either. You know what you really want. You just need to ask.

Listen to yourself (not others).

There is a time to seek out the advice of your friends and family. But the ultimate decision is yours. Really! You get to decide. Seek advice, research options, then listen to what you know is the best decision for you.


The greatest thing I've learned is Life (living) is an experiment. Ask yourself what you want, listen, and then do it. If it doesn't work out the way you thought it would, that's okay. (Unless, of course, you've unwisely decided to do something illegal or harmful to others. That's never a good decision.) You can always re-evaluate and try again. Don't give up! The point is, your decision doesn't have to be perfect. You don't have to be perfect. Just keep tweaking your actions until you find what works.

Don't just stand there. Do something!

Getting stuck in life isn't always because of something we've done. It can be because of what we're not doing. It's like we're walking along and suddenly realize we've stepped into a big puddle  of mud. We want to get our foot out, but it won't budge. So we just stand there. We realize the only way to get free is to lose the shoe. We think to ourselves, "I love these shoes! They're ruined, but I can't leave them." Time passes. People pass. They offer to help. But we're determined to stand there until we can get unstuck without losing the shoe.

I know. That's absurd, right? But we do it all the time. We get stuck, but instead of doing the simple things to get unstuck, we just stand there. Stuck.

What do you need to do to get unstuck? Call a friend, go to the gym, plan a party. Whatever you do, do something. Don't get stuck in your own life.


"Procrastination: The effortless means by which we replace creativity, energy, and productivity with anxiety, fatigue, and boredom."
Phyllis Arnett